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The Rosary: A Story of Lust and Celibacy. Part IV: Judgement Day

AUTHORS NOTE: Ya, I’m going to swear in this…

Ladies, I adore and worship you, but…

There is something in your DNA which makes the concept of time non-existent. I don’t know what it is, but it’s real. Maybe it has something to do with you being the creator of a human life or hormones or I don’t fucking know. All I do know is many of you, and I have quite the sample size…

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You have no goddamn clue as to what it is and what it consists of. But here is a little disclaimer:

IT’S NOT FUCKING INFINITE!

It’s the one thing we can’t get more of. We can’t. Every second is a second LOST. We can’t ever get it back. It’s not being pessimistic, it’s not being negative, it’s not being a “glass is half empty”,

It’s being, well, fucking realistic…

And it’s the one surefire way to piss off a guy. (By the way, YES, there are plenty of guys that are equally if not worse with time. They tend to take forever in the bathroom, wear way too much hair gel, and really dig Nickleback.)

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I say all of that to say this:

When it comes to me and time, I’m a moody little cunt.

“I need my charger Keith, I NEED IT!”

Okay, I get it, If I didn’t have my laptop charger, I’d be freaking out.

I wouldn’t have left mine behind…but that’s just me…So, we made plans on…

The Exchange

FADE IN

INT. My apartment – Bathroom – Day – Time 7:57 in the AM

Me (39) is getting ready for work with a maroon Better Homes Shedless Towel that does nothing but shed wrapped around my waste sucking on my Slim Soft toothbrush covered in Arm and Hammer whitening toothpaste.

Me: “What time?”

Her: “6:00?” She answers, yet asks…

Me: “Sure, where?”

Her: “Half way?” How someone can answer and ask at the same time blows my fucking mind, but…

Perfect! Saratoga Springs is about the halfway point, but I’ll go a little further south, because I’m such a goddamn kind-hearted soul, drop it to her, angrily make out where I’ll do some hair pulling, hopefully in her car and not mine, I’m right-handed. Go back to Toga, catch a movie (I did ask her, she said no, hence needing the charger. As for me, I’m in the middle of a script re-write, might as well do some research!).

INT. My Apartment – Night – Time: 5:26 in the PM

Her: “Hey, can we make it 6:30?”

I’m dressed in a pair of Guess Jeans that won’t allow me to have my phone in my pocket and bend over at the same time. I did some writing, it sucked.

Me: “Sure.”

Movie isn’t until 7:15. Get there, still have time for angry session, time will be less but the intensity will be much angrier.

INT. My Apartment – Night – Time: 6:03 in the PM

Her: “Hey, I’m starving, can we do 7:30?”

Me: ………………………………………………………………..

Me (Cont.): “Ya, that’s fine.”

Ladies, “fine”, ya, it means the same for us too when we say it.

INT. My Car – Night – Time: 7:11 in the PM

I’m cruising down the highway in my Honda Accord with a Kombucha and trying not to jerk the steering wheel as I’m itching my balls because of these goddamn jeans.

Bluetooth chime indicating a text.

Bluetooth Becky (What I call that saucy little minx. I love it when she tells me what to do. “Take left, NOW!” Ahhh, my skinny jeans just got tighter…just kidding, I write in the nude.):

Becky: “Hey, running late, I’ll be there around 8.”

Me: …I can’t do this anymore…

I just broke up with my bluetooth.

INT. My Car – Night – Time: 8:03 in the PM

Why when there is snow frozen to your car, it just feels colder? However, at this moment no matter how bitter it is outside, it’s not nearly as bitter as what is inside sitting in the Dunkin Donuts Parking Lot in Ballston Spa. Which sucks. Not only because of the aforementioned cold, but I have to drive through an obnoxious amount roundabouts. Like an obscene amount.

My phone rings,

Her: “Hey, I’m almost in Saratoga, where are you?”

Forgot to mention, she told me the Dunkin Donuts off of exit 12, but ya, she went to the one off of Exit 13 because her GPS told her to. If you can fucking make sense of that, then I will kiss your ring and call you king or queen because I don’t have a goddamn clue as to how that happened. All I DO know is now I have to backtrack after sitting in my cold and appearing to be colder car thanks to said frozen snow for the past 23 minutes.

EXT. Dunkin Donuts – Saratoga Springs – Night – Time: 8:11 in the PM

I pulled alongside her car as if we were having an “oh we’re so obviously performing a drug deal that it’s obviously not a drug deal” moment…

Her: “Ugh, I’m so annoyed by this…”

I was looking at her, how cute she looked in her cute hat, and even though she was…she was fun…a lot of fun…all I’m thinking is “this will be the last time I see you” and:

Kissed her on the cheek and headed off back to my place wondering if I’m going to use a sock or tissues tonight…

INT. My Car – Night – Time 8:33 in the PM

Phone rings:

Her: “You seem upset”.

I calmly (Trust me, the calmer the cuntier),

Me: “Am I annoyed, yes. I have a lot of work to get done, and now I have another night lost. So, upset? Probably. But I would definitely say I’m annoyed more than anything. ”

Pretty sure my face is “heart attack” red as I’m reciting these lines as if they have been rehearsed since sitting at an Exit 12 Dunkin Donuts parking lot.

Her: “Oh, I’m sorry you didn’t get to go to the movies.”

Me: “Ya, I’m going to get off the phone now before…Ya, I’m gonna have to talk to you later…”

There are moments when I wish Alcoholic Keith would just erupt like Kilauea! He wouldn’t have gotten off that phone. But, this guy, this guy didn’t feel like making someone cry. Namaste.

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A couple days later, I text:

“Good morning, so I wanted to simply say that I was too aggravated over something that had nothing to do with you. I have immense internal pressure to do what I’m doing right now and I viewed the other night as unnecessary. What you asked for me to do wasn’t a big deal and that’s so obvious a 5-year-old could point it out. This is why I stated a relationship is not healthy right now. For me or for anyone. And all that kept playing like a gif in my mind was, “this is why I don’t want a relationship.” I like you. I think that’s pretty clear. But I do think we need an extended arm and say, let’s take a breath.”

Looking back…Looking back, I realize I misspelled aggravated. (aggrevated)

Days later, I finished my script! I did a quick scrub, my brain felt like it was about to start eating itself (you remember how I referred myself as the “fuzzy blueberry”? Aren’t moldy berries the premise to every zombie anything? Infected, silently yet rapidly infects, the next thing you know you’re keeled over the toilet wondering how you feel like you have appendicitis without an appendix?).

Anywho, sent off the script and headed back to Vt. to see family and do some laundry.

While there, my phone did the one noise that causes us to all look at our phone like we’re so goddamn special:

And then again:

And again:

AND YOU KNOW WHAT IT DID? It did it a-fucking-gain!

You know what’s especially douchey about facebook message scoldings? When it comes in multiple messages, it comes with that added “Fuck you” with every send. Not like a text where it’s broken into 13 parts because if you exceed 180 characters, it somehow only has the capacity to deliver sentences.

I’m not going to recite verbatim what was written (Fucking deleted it. Trust me, I can’t look myself in the eye knowing I was, am so foolish.), however…I haven’t smoked away my memory yet…

Essentially, I was told I suck, like clinically suck, like I should go into the hospital and have myself admitted for sucking as much as I suck, like I need to then call my primary care and be prescribed an intense regime of pills to be taken with food every 6 hours for how much I suck, like I should seek out counseling where I must attend 4 nights a week, 4 hours a night, for 6 consecutive weeks in an establishment that treats people who suck, surrounded by brochures on “How to Cope with Sucking and Saving the Ones You Love”, and sit with others who have either self-admitted, or were court ordered to attend each night while we watch films about sucking, starring Meg Ryan and Andy Garcia and discuss what we’re going to do to change our lives of sucking so much?

Oh, and “I don’t want to be your friend, let alone be in any “relationship” with you.

The latter is all her, all before that is how I translated the nonsense I was forced to read.

However, how did I feel when I read this?

DO NOT ASK ME HOW I FOUND THIS VIDEO. JUST SAY THANK YOU! How great is “Stoned Eddie Vedder playing the ukulele”?

Needless to say, I deleted her as a Facebook friend and blocked her…because she didn’t want to be my friend, so as we all know, that means you get blocked, right?

I went to bed that night, on my freshly washed and fabric sofetned 400 Thread Count Sheets on my iComfort mattress (won this in the divorce settlement, WINNING!), I didn’t have to worry about my script, or worry about being someone anyone would want to date.

Life is good.

It’s a lonely, yet comforting feeling…

Monday, January 22nd, 2018 – The Day I Decided to Never Have Sex Again

I wake at 4am out of habit, and it’s okay. I was in the middle of a book, the title is of no importance, however…Please play this song for background as you read:

4:59 AM…Phone rings.

I ignore.

She texts that she wants to talk.

I text back:

“(Name) You made your point. Goodbye and I wish you nothing but the best.”

And this is where the guitar picks up and we’re off…

5:02AM phone rings

Ignore

5:03AM Text:

“I want to tell you I’m sorry Keith. Can you please pick up?”

5:04 AM Call

Ignore

5:06 AM Call

Ignore

5:08 AM Call

Ignore

5:10 AM Call

Ignore

I’m trying to read a goddamn book on my phone and this shit keeps interrupting!

5:12 AM Call

Ignore

5:14 AM Text

“Keith, I’m sorry for what I wrote to you. I was scared of being hurt and wanted to avoid that. But it doesn’t negate that you are a WONDERFUL GUY (of course she capitalized it…she didn’t) You didn’t just pop into my life for no reason. I’m not trying to pursue a relationship with you, though I’d be lucky to have that. I’d be blessed to have your friendship. I am truly sorry.”

To summarize, she just reversed her entire position from 12 hours prior.

5:15 AM Call

Ignore

Tearful voicemail.

5:16 AM Text

“I would like to talk to you and wish we could have just talked openly about it.”

Okay, ladies remember earlier when I said the thing about time? I hope you took that as a tip and not an insult. I know my delivery can cause some form of, well, confusion.

With that, another tip:

This isn’t a fucking John Hughes movie! Calling the guy, or maybe your gal (so hot) 19 times isn’t going to finally cause this penetration through their “Crazyproof Shield” and into their heart where they have this epiphany,

“My god, she loves me so much!”

No, instead it screams,

“Fucking psycho! Thank God I’m getting out now!”

So, what do I do? I go for a walk? Why? Because I’m a creature of habit. A creature of habit with a strained IT Band and iliopsoas. I can’t run. At least I couldn’t at the time.

When I return, I see this:

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Jesus Christ…

I’m freaking, not much, but enough. Plus, it was a pretty nice Rosary. Then I remembered, she complimented my rosary! How long was I gone on my walk?

An hour…mother of God…

I wonder what it’s like to live below me, because I pace. A lot! Especially when you’re phone was ringing hours earlier like you’re a phone bank for the fucking Jerry Lewis Telethon! Especially when the person on the other end of that phone, has somewhere within her your DNA. Especially when you have a goddamn rosary hanging from your goddamn door only hours after all of this shit!

So, it may be her…Or not.

It may be my neighbor downstairs who can’t attend mass on Sunday. So, on occassion, I drop her off things : Palms on Palm Sunday, free Calendars when they hand them out. Just every once in a while. Like twice, twice a year. Palm Sunday, and when they have calendars.

Authors Note: As you can see by my actions and words, I’m clearly your typical, practicing Catholic. Amen.

So, it may be her.

I go to work, trying to shake off this hangover. My Mondays are jammed due to sales team, and one on one meetings I have with my staff. And you bet your sweet ass I’m telling them,

“Wait til you hear this shit!”

Especially Mr. “Who’s Walking Down Broadway”.

INT. My Car – Day – Lunch Time.

I go home and as I go back to my place like I do every day, I see my aforementioned downstairs neighbor walking.

I pull up aside her and ask,

Me: “Hey, did you leave a goddamn rosary on my door?”

Sweet Neighbor:“Oh no Keith, I would let you know if I was going to do something like that. Who do you think it is?”

Me: “No one you know, just a crazy girl I met online.”

Sweet Neighbor: “Another one?”

I smirk…

She shakes her head, she has a crush on me.

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Anyway.

I go inside my apartment, do a quick check, for well …you know…

I’m good. No bunny.

Eat lunch and go check the mail at our “island.”

While walking back, this woman, who I don’t know, but I’ve heard is batshit crazy. (We’ve got a couple here. One walks around “hooting” to herself. No shit, she will take a step “hoot”, another step “hoot”. It wasn’t her.)

And she’s kicking snow from under her car (yes she drives) to under the car parked next to her. She opens her backdoor and says something. I thought she was talking to an imaginary pet or some shit.

Truthfully, I was euphoric because I just got these wool argyle socks from Amazon in the mail. My office is freezing cold.

Lunatic Lady:“You better watch your step.”

That’s what I thought she said. Again, probably talking to Miss. Maple, her amber colored imaginary cat.

Lunatic Lady: “Ya, I’m talking to you!”

And she is staring right at me with her sunglass-covered eyes while it’s completely overcast.

Me: “Excuse me.” I quickly retort while hiding my socks scared that she may try to take them away from me.

Or, attack like the rabid cat that attacked me almost exactly 2 years to the day. No shit! And the sky was just as ominous. Making the sunglasses thing even fucking creepier.

Lunatic Lady: “You heard me! You better watch your step!”

Now, I’m ready to fuck somebody up. Especially some crazy lady (No, I haven’t asked her out…yet.) screaming at me in the fucking parking lot while kicking fucking snow!

And then…

Me: “Tell me, WHY do I need to watch my step? Execuse me, you can hear me, I know you can, why? Huh? Why? Specifically, did I do something to you? Because I don’t think I did. So, please tell me, what I did to you or why I need to watch my step? Choose, either one will do!”

I think while my tongue was deep within the “pfft” girl’s mouth, I stole some of her soul.

Needless to say, no response. I mean, come on. I’m the best fucking looking dude in the complex. You may want to be nice to me.

Or maybe she knew the girl…HOLY SHIT! Does she know fucking bunny boiler? (she never boiled my bunny…I don’t have a bunny. I have a plant:

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My mind can’t handle the possiblity of them having any sort of…

FUCK!!! What the fuck is happening?!?

So, just like I do whenever I cower:

Me: “Okay then, well, have a nice day!”

And she seriously got excited and returned the gesture. The inflection in her voice hit such a high octave that I was petrified of her levels of insanity.

I race back up to my place to not only call my landlord, but I was really excited about my socks!

Informed the landlord of the incident while praying for assurance I wasn’t about to have something knocking at my door at 1AM in snow-covered snows, sunglasses on, wielding a scythe, telling me:

“I told you to watch your step”.

Turns out this woman does this type of shit all the time.

Clearly I live in a gated community.

I walk outside, she’s gone, and see my downstairs neighbor who returned home from her walk.

I look at her with “wait til you hear this shit” eyes.

I inform her as to what just happened, on top of all the shit from only 7 hours earlier, including the fucking rosary on my door, and now I’m being threatened by Lizzy Borden!

Sweet Neighbor: “Keith, she (lunatic lady) told me a few weeks ago that she came out to her car, she’s crazy Keith! She came out to her car and her tire was flat. She calls AAA to come, Keith, she’s crazy! She calls them to fix it. They show up and tell her that her tire has been slashed. She tells me she knows who, Keith, you know she’s crazy right? She tells me she knows who did it. Keith, she goes to this church down the street where, Keith, they’re all crazy there! She goes to this church and she, Keith, she makes jewelry…”

Mother…

Fucker…

To Summarize

Are you one of those that found or currently finds yourself not being attracted to those attracted to you?  Me too.  I think my problem is I can’t respect anyone that would be attracted to someone like me…

Or…

I’m afraid of getting it wrong again. It’s right up there with my fear of heights and bridges.  I’m so deathly afraid of getting it wrong, I have created a phobia called:

“Douchobia”

 

I don’t know if any of what I do is right. I hope it is, I have faith that it is.

Someone asked my definition of God the other day, I said God is a brunette, green eyes, pale skin, slender yet curvaceous, and loves Jam Bands and the West Wing.

“So, you want to have sex with God?” She asked disgustedly.

“Oh, I’d love to have my face in the crotch of God.”

For me, God is Hope.  We all have faith in something, right? And we all desperately want to be right.  For some, as long as they have God, they are right.  For some it’s as long as they have their gun, and for some it’s as long as they have their weed.

My Jennifer Connelly looking Lord is so much better than bong or an AR-15…

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God, is what we want God to be. God confirms what he hold to be right, and true.

Point being, my God is hot and fun, as long as she watches the West Wing while drinking a kombucha.

Am I trying to simply get it right?

Am I trying to simply get it right and have it “confirmed”, because I’ve already been wrong?

Am I try to simply get it right because I don’t want to get it wrong ever again?

Or am I simply waiting to get it right with my green-eyed, looks great in a pair of yoga pants while jamming to Phish, God?

I don’t know.

Lately, I’ve been really into the Late David Foster Wallace.  I’m reading a book of his called “Infinite Jest”.  Many of you may have heard of him from his notorious “This is Water”…

In it, he first tells the joke of two young fish swimming along, until they come across an older fish who asks,

“How’s the water?”

As they swim along afterward, one of the young fish looks at the other one and asks,

“What the hell is water?”

I think my dating life is water…

Years ago, my friend Chuck said I serve to the God of “Pussilitus”.

I see his point.

That’s why I decided after all of this, it was time for a much-needed respite.

However…

I realized today was Palm Sunday.  Which means only five more days of Lent…Which means come Friday, Good Friday Morning…

I’M BACK!

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FADE OUT

-k

Folks for all of you that read all three of these:

The Rosary: A Story of Lust and Celibacy… Part One

The Rosary. A Story of Lust and Celibacy, Part Due. (In Italian two is “due”. Not due, like “your bill is due”. Due, like a Candadian, asking if you’re drinking a Mountain Dew. “Dew, Eh?” Due, two, Italian, learning to speak it.)

The Rosary. A story of Lust and Celibacy, Part Three

I hope you enjoyed. They were fun to write.

I’ve since decided it’s time to pursue writing as a full-time thing. So, as a favor to helping me achieve this, please like, follow, and/or share.

If you’d like to contact me directly:

kth08250@gmail.com

THANK YOU, ALL!

-k

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The Rosary. A story of Lust and Celibacy, Part Three

Authors Note:  Since we had SO much success with it last time, and it didn’t totally interrupt flow while writing whatsoever;  we’re going to not “cuss” in this post too. Funny thing, actually found a site with the “101 Best Alternatives to Curse Words”. Not mentioned, you got it, dawg gone. Whatever, trying something new. Speaking of something new…

Let’s Be Friends…

One of my many, many issues with the whole online dating experience is how it eliminates any organic nature to developing a relationship.  Now, are there people who I can see living forever, together in a life of eternal struggles and bliss who met via the online dating experience? Absolutely.

We hate those people and they are only detectable by Rowdy Roddy Piper (RIP Hotrod!) wearing Ray Bans.  

However, it more than likely is a “me” thing.  (If I may, I’m willing to bet all the money in my 401k vs. all the money in your Roth IRA that if we were to hop on, let us say Match.com right now; I would recognize a solid dozen ladies who are “online now”. Because they are ALWAYS online now.  So, this “me” thing, it’s a “we” thing. Thanks for playing.)

And I’m done with it.

And if, for some reason, it is a “me” thing, then I’m going to own it the Stove Top Stuffing out of it!

Why?

Because, well, you know who I’m going to have dinner with, go for hikes with, talk about my day with , and dagnabbit, have sex with?

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And it’s what needed to be done.

How so?

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, and I know, some of you are…well…

But, you may have noticed I enjoy writing. How much so will be revealed in the days to come.  (TEASE)

Blogging for me is an exercise. Practice if you will.  This is something to hopefully entertain a few of you while serving a purpose greater than I care to explain.  (Let me explain: writing is me uninterrupted. And if you know me, you know I don’t shut the Fraggle Rock up! So…) And I also use blogging to help strengthen my lack of grammatical skills. (Or reinforce my obvious (bad) habits.).

Screenwriting, whole different species to me. Hell, it has it’s own Kingdom Classification of torturia. And it, without question, is the single most amazing experience I have ever had.  I view sitting in a theater, watching a show, or watching a movie as an emotional investment of time.  For two hours, I give my emotions over to the storytellers (primarily writer, director, editor) and say “inspire me!”

And the first moment “Action!” was called, with a guy standing on a stool way to unsafe to sit on, while holding a boom mike hoping to not be in the shot. The first moment a gal to the side is making sure the light casts shadows in a somber, yet delicious tone. The first time a person with an eye that I will never possess focused through a viewfinder capturing the actors walking out in front of us reciting words you wrote…

…We’ve established my addictions, well…I never put myself in a position to put a needle in my arm, however…If I could, I would inject this feeling in between my toes!

I’d rather work for it…

How so?

I’ve recently hired a Screenwriting Coach, Lee Jessup (http://leejessup.com), and she’s been fantastic.  She’s also put me into contact with Andrew Hilton (http://www.screenplaymechanic.com).  Andrew is friggen awesome!  We had a discussion (email) recently where I flat out said,

“I’m not looking for a pat on the ass and an “atta boy”.  I want you to tell me I suck and why I suck!”

He does and it’s outstanding.

So, I set up a “deadline” with him for “Notes”. (Goes through, reads the script, thoroughly tells you what works, what doesn’t, and gives you a grade.)

I Scheduled one for the end of January shortly after the “pfft date”.  Now that I consciously made my decision to combat my addiction to online dating, I desperately needed to get into a routine.  (My routine consists of waking up at 4am (foreshadowing and yes, I just parenthesized within a parenthesis) because my mind first thing in the morning is like a jackrabbit with ADHD and a cocaine addiction. So, I go with it. I read for about 30-45 minutes.  After stalking all of you on Facebook and Instagram. Then, I write. I do this until my 120 pages or so are done.) Once my draft is complete, and these are typically rewrites by the way.  (One script is about 5 to 6 rewrites and the other is the 3rd)  I’ll usually do a quick read through, tell myself I’ll do another but by that point my brain is exhausted and so sick of those characters.  Email it off to Andrew  awaiting the response of “Oh my God man, this is it! Bravo!” And instead “It’s made some strides forward, but many horizontally”.

And yes I pay for this.  And yes, I love it.  (Not gonna lie, at first, kinda stings.) But no one said it was going to be easy.

In the middle of this most recent time though…My phone was blinking.

Have you ever had a Facebook friend request, then didn’t?  Because the person who sent it smartened up  and canceled it? Well, this happened to a girl I “dated” for a month and I was a complete ass (donkey) too.   She was sweet, kind, and just so happened to be the girl I was with during the “rabid cat” attack.  Which was followed by the overly emotional writing of a script that eventually became my student film.  Have I told you about “Good Grief”?

 

Needless to say, I was a little dramatic at the time.

Anyway, she was the ghost of okcupid past, and was gracing me with the chance to be kind. Plus, I owed her a much deserved apology. (When you stop being a waste of a body and mind due to drinking and drugs, you have a lot of amends to make and even more actions to make amends for. So, you become pretty good at it.  By the way, if I haven’t for some of you reading; give me a bit.) She wasn’t seeking that, she just wanted to say hi.  I’m glad she did.

We reconnected due to her heart absorbing a torpedo to the side of its hull. From the man she met after me. She was wounded, severely wounded.

Now, she’s a beautiful, sexy gal, and here is an opportunity for me to take full advantage of her freshly wounded organ and be my typical, overly flattering, charismatic, charming, con artist self.   So, of course, I said:

” You know, we were never friends. And right now, you need a friend.”

What the Fraggle Rock was that?

Have you ever had a panic attack? They’re awful.  A year after going sober, my days were full of them. It was awesome.

For those who have never had the pleasure…

You’re thinking, typically, you’re thinking about how much life sucks.  You’re sweating.  Especially your palms. (I have this thing about my palms sweating.  As a kid I used to get worried about them getting sweaty right before “Peace Be With You” at church.  No kidding. Which of course did what? Made them sweaty) You notice the impossible to not notice sweaty palms. They always sweat. “Am I freak” races through your infant like sense of self.  You have flashbacks to Ash Wednesday your 7th grade year at Christ the King. Your heart races. You notice.  It’s hard not to.  You’re having flashbacks of cocaine with a girl you met named Penny at the bar Jilly’s with a homemade tattoo of a crucifix on her middle finger.  You think you’re having a heart attack.  You’re convinced you’re having a heart attack. Which of course causes you to…

Panic. Which cause your hear to race, which cause you to…

Such a fickle little cycle isn’t it?

However, during said mental meltdown, you find yourself desensitized.  Outside of your body.

For my hallucinogenic taking friends, it’s about the 2-hour mark in a mushroom trip or hour 3 to 4 in a clean LSD experience. At this time, your dilated pupils are looking down the barrel of whether this is going to be a friggin blast, or I’m going to piss myself and curl up into a ball for the next, well, forever…

I’m not saying I was there (desensitized)  when I said that to her. But it was so, well, odd and…

And then I heard her crying.

Two things came from this moment:

  1. We became friends.  We don’t chat often, but when we do, it’s a conversation between two people that, well, are treating people like people.  Funny (funny meaning scary) how you lose this  concept while by consumed by the “lifestyle” of emotional online gambling. Matter of fact, I recently reconnected with another ghost of okcupid (I wish North Korea would bomb THAT site) and she’s, she too was and is one of those people  you thank God you were graced in meeting.  I’m not good enough for her…   And…
  2. Holy crap, it’s that easy? Say you want to be friends! That’s it? Because as we know…

 

Right now, it was hour 2 or hour 3-4 depending, and I needed to choose: A euphoric good time, or defecating myself from this eternal hell. Do I use this newfound intel for good…or for…

Then my phone chimed…

Actually…being…friends…?

This young lady and I started chatting months earlier.  I was in the middle of a “hitting streak.”   (You have a good amount of dates lined up.  Typically, when you do have this sort of “feast”, you usually walk away with a lighter bank account and a bottle of Aveeno lotion and “first-time lesbian experience” in your Google search bar. Why? Man is incapable of handling that many options.) We had a dinner planned for a Saturday night but, a few days  before she called…

“Can you be my date for this event tonight?”

This was literally minutes, like 90 before said event and it was an hour plus drive (foreshadowing) from me to her.  Plus, I just walked into my place after a workday. Plus, it was a formal event.  Plus, it was  for the “Ladies of Law” in Capital City (Albany).

So, to summarize: First date. First date that’s an hour away where I have to pull out my wrinkled Kenneth Cole suit. First date that’s an hour away where I have to pull out my wrinkled Kenneth Cole suit where there will possibly be people in tuxedos.  First date that’s an hour away where I have to pull out my wrinkled Kenneth Cole suit where there will  possibly be people in tuxedos at a ball for the “Ladies of Law”.  First date that’s an hour away where I have to pull out my wrinkled Kenneth Cole suit where there will possibly be people in tuxedos at a ball for the “Ladies of Law” and you are this Fudge Nugget:

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“Ya, I’m good.”

A couple days later, she cancelled our date. Turns out Plan B said yes, and she, much respect, wanted to give him a “fair shot”.

Good for her!

3 months later…My phone chimes.

“Hey Keith, Happy New Year.”

Texts are exchanged, the texts turn into a phone call and she reveals the whole story about the guy who went to the event with her.  Cool. I really don’t care, but you know…I have to let them talk at some point.  (If you’ve ever been on the phone with me, you get this. Have I mentioned that I don’t shut up?) 

I inform her how I’m in the middle of a screenplay called “Gone Guy”. It’s the story of a man that goes missing when he take it upon himself to reveal online dating is actually a middle class prostitution ring………….(Okay, it’s not. The screenplay.  Online dating IS prostitution.) I also inform her that…

“Im done having my soul sucked out on a regular basis.  Meaning I’m done with dating.”

Which works because she just got out of the 3 month story with Plan B.

Then I drop…

“But, if you’re looking for a friend, I’d love to be your friend”.

“I would love that.”

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Now, did I consciously say that knowing that I would love to see her naked?

I don’t know.  But, did I consciously capitalize Fudge Nugget earlier when referring  to myself?

 

Then she asks…

“Do you want to come over and watch a movie?”

Yeah, she didn’t ask this immediately after the whole friend thing.  It was a week later.  My writing had intensified. I was a week from “deadline”, and I was beginning to get a little punchy.

“You know what? Ya, ya I do.”

Then I made the hour trek  to Albany.

Needless to say, I liked what I saw.

Needless to say, she liked what she saw.

Needless to say, we didn’t finish the movie…

Then in the middle of post-coital spooning I created my “out”.

Yes, this is how my mercurial mind works.

This is how it all played out, in my mind of course: (Favorite quote: “I’ve seen a lot of trouble in my life, and only a fraction of it actually happened”.-Mark Twain)

It doesn’t work between us.

Why?

Because I’m a chicken-poop that despises change. You know, totally unlike society who easily embraces change……………

She tells me that change is good.

I get annoyed.

She compromises.

I despise her more for caving so quickly.  I find my moment, and execute my escape plan.

“Well, hey, I said I ONLY wanted to be friends.”

Her appropriate response:

“Oh ya, I forgot that moment where I had a gun to turn your head while it was between my thighs.”

Then she kills me in a moment of passion, pleads insanity, and enters into evidence my blogs as proof to my torturous behaviors. She gets 100 hours community service calling bingo at the local old folks home and my brother gets my baseball card collection.

All that aside, what do we crave after sex? No, not food.  Even though I was hungry as all hell. I think I was, yeah, I was in the middle of this “cleanse/reset” I do once a year.

So, my late night reward when I got home was Vegetable Miso Soup and lentils.

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Sex.  The answer to what you want after having sex is more sex.  At least that’s how my addictive personality thinks.  For you see, I’m the guy eating dinner thinking about dessert. I was the guy doing the line of cocaine thinking about the next line of cocaine.  I was the guy having the drink thinking about the next drink.  And I’m the guy in the middle of…You see where I’m going with this.

I have this thing about being “present” that I’m dealing with.  I don’t know what that means, but I just know I’ve been told I have an issue with it.

Needless to say, the person that told me to be present is no longer present in my life.

So, the next day, all her and I did was discuss how we were going to do this again, what we were going to do to each other, and how soon we were going to do it.

Because that’s what friends do.

Meanwhile, I’m trying to finish the next 60 pages or so of my script which is due in a week. No pressure.  However, I just added quite the distraction to the equation.

The next day, we made plans for her to come to my place (Not a fan of that crap so soon, however, SEXY TIME!).  I did tell her though,  I needed to get some work done while she was at my place. Pleasant surprise, she reciprocated that sentiment.

She was in the middle of something, I don’t know. So, she was going to bring her computer. (foreshadowing)

She came over, checked out my place for about 10 minutes, noticed and appreciated this little, well, shrine to those I love where I have a blessed rosary from the Church I attend.

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“I like your rosary.” (foreshadowing)

Needless to say,  we got very little work done.

However, we did have about a 45 minute window where we did.

Important.

Why?

Because she left her GOSH DARN battery at my place and she lives over an hour away.

Now, I’m a man of ritual and habit. We all are.  Especially as we progress in age.  We wake up and do the exact same thing, day, after day, after day, after day.

 

And she was fudging it all up!

Well…

Little did I know I wasn’t the only “mercurial minded” one in this “friendship”.

Little did I know that “being friends” was worse than, well, not being friends.

And little did I know that Jesus was going to be hanging from my door waiting for me…

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-k